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• Everyone is busy. Families have a lot of activities to schedule, and often for multiple children. So, when you meet with parents at a parent-teacher conference, for example, be sure to set clear time limits<\/strong> and respect the time limits you set<\/strong>. Usually, working parents are juggling life’s demands on less sleep than they need. They’re moderately stressed out pretty much all of the time for an infinite set of reasons that teachers cannot truly know. So, when we have an opportunity to exchange with a parent, it’s important to honour their presence by starting and ending the meeting on time. If parents feel they have come to a meeting or to an open house and they haven’t accomplished item #1 or feel their time was wasted or disrespected, they will generally not feel happy. In future, when you have to have a tough conversation…well, the conversation starts from a more difficult place.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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  • Invite parents to talk about their child’s learning<\/strong>. Ask them if they have any questions that are most important to address during your meeting. Follow up with parents by email, if necessary, with any points you weren’t able to make. Again, families want to ensure that you (the teacher) know their child — so they appreciate it when teachers ask them for insights, and when the conversations are driven by their questions about their child.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    So, tonight I attended a fall open house at my children’s school. My younger daughter has two teachers. My older daughter has four teachers. The idea of the open house is wonderful. I am happy that the school invites families in. This is essential and very much appreciated. And yet, I came away feeling really, really disappointed because the structure of the evening didn’t allow me to speak with most of my children’s teachers. There were just too many families. There were crowds of parents, actually — and with only one hour of time to see as many teachers as I could, I ended up speaking with only a couple of teachers directly and I didn’t even get to make a personal connection with either of my children’s homeroom teachers. There was no schedule. I understand wanting to keep the evening informal and yet, this resulted in many parents standing in a line to talk to their child’s teacher, which didn’t feel informal at all. Just like me,<\/strong> every parent wanted to make a personal connection with their child’s teacher<\/strong>. From the teacher’s perspective, I bet it was stressful. Teachers generally want to speak with everyone who takes the time to come to see them — but with so many families and no set schedule, some families get 15 minutes of time to talk with the teacher and others get no time. This is the way of these things. Sometimes, it’s great if you get lucky and have a chance to really chat with the teacher, but inevitably with so many families attending, the conversations are rushed at best and lack authenticity. And some will come and go, feeling that their time was wasted because they couldn’t wait it out (see the point about busy above).<\/p>\n

    So, teacher candidates, my question is, how will you build powerful, authentic connections with the families of the students you teach?<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Here are some ideas for how you could turn an informal open house evening into an event that allows you to build real, authentic relationships with parents. You have to be there anyway — so why not use the opportunity to welcome families, help them get to know you, and most importantly, for you to show them that you really are getting to know their children?<\/p>\n

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                  • Idea #4:<\/strong> Create a question box for families. Anyone who comes by the open house but is not able to speak with you directly can leave a question for you in the question box with their name and contact info. You can follow up with these families afterward. Be sure families know when to expect a response — realistically, it might take you a week to answer all of the questions. If families know this in advance, they won’t be upset if it does take you a few days to get back to them.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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                      • Idea #5:<\/strong> Create visuals that let parents know you are happy they have come. Maybe it’s a welcome sign, or a little message that every child puts on their desk to welcome families into the classroom.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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                        Parents who feel authentically welcomed and who know that you know their children will support you.<\/strong> Really. It may seem like a lot of work to do these extra things when your colleagues are happy to just have parents line up in an informal open-house meet-and-greet. However, by doing these small things you can develop enduring and mutually supportive school-to-home connections with more parents.<\/p>\n

                        *I use the word parent to refer to any loving, caring adult who has assumed the responsibility for the daily needs and care of a child. This includes grand-parents, aunts, uncles, foster parents, legal guardians and any other person who provides for the physical, emotional, spiritual and cognitive needs of a child.<\/p>\n

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